A girlfriend, just posted a picture of she and her 92 year old Mama celebrating her birthday today.
She stated, “she can’t get out of bed and her mind is going but God has a plan and he’s not ready for her. She’s having a good day today.”
This is difficult for me, as if my heart was being wrung out!
I recall my own Mama in a rest home before she left to be with our Father. I know traditionally it is said, “Mexican people take care of their own.” Times have changed, things are very different nowadays.
My Mama was a “different breed!” Way ahead of her time! She had also made all of her funeral arrangements.
She had made the decision for us. Awhile back she gathered her children and proceeded to explain to all of her children.
I don’t want you to argue amongst yourself or blame each other that someone put me in here! I am putting myself in this rest home, I want to be here. She stated she preferred being there, to being home alone. She said you all work and have your own lives. Even though you visit me. I feel better being surrounded by people and having companionship here. The nurses are near by and at my beckon call. Even though several of her daughter’s had invited her to live with them (including myself). She wouldn’t hear of it.
Although, I knew she was lonely and hungry for her children. She was always humorous.
We loved talking on the phone.
I recall one day she called me very excited and almost with a sense of urgency, said, “Mija I want some big shiny necklaces and earrings. All of the women here are wearing them.” She continued, “I knew if anyone would know what I wanted it would be you Mija. I know you have real big, old and shiny jewelry.”
She went on……..the real shiny ones, Mija.
She finally paused, “do you know what I want?” I responded, “yes Mama.”
After we got off the phone, I wanted to laugh and cry. I thought, why do you want these Mama? But, I would have given you the world if I could! A few days later I went through all my vintage jewelry. It was fun thinking, my Mama would like this one and this one. I pulled out all my favorite pieces of vintage and costume necklaces and earring sets. I also went and bought a few extra pieces I thought she might like.
I drove to Chowchilla and delivered them to her. She was so happy; as if a little girl playing dress up. She didn’t want just one necklace on, she wanted to wear all of them together! I enjoyed helping put on her necklaces and earrings as if a ritual. In retrospect, and just perhaps, it just occurred to me, I as her first-born was adorning her in preparation to be with our Lord. Just perhaps……
Isaiah 61:10 I will greatly rejoice in the LORD, my soul shall be joyful in my God; for he has clothed me with the garments of salvation, he has covered me with the robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom decks himself with ornaments, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.
I saw her one more time; a week before she left us to be with her Father. And she was pretty much out of it and breathing loudly.
My beautiful Mama left shortly after receiving and wearing her jewels here.
Ezekiel 16:11-13 ESV And I adorned you with ornaments and put bracelets on your wrists and a chain on your neck. And I put a ring on your nose and earrings in your ears and a beautiful crown on your head. Thus you were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen and silk and embroidered cloth. You ate fine flour and honey and oil. You grew exceedingly beautiful and advanced to royalty.